Depression Forum

Happy New Year

2011-12-31T17:36:13Z

Whatever you are doing to bring in the New Year, I wish you a good one and let’s look forward to new beginnings and a good year for you and your family, friends and loved ones. Helen x

Merry Christmas to you.

2011-12-24T10:03:33Z

Don’t forget Christmas is as good as we make it so come on let’s make it a good one. All my love, Helen x

Hey newbie here :)

2011-12-02T18:38:53Z

Hey everyone im really nervous at the moment ..
Im a carer for one of my brothers who has many problems

Lonely

2008-10-09T20:17:00Z

Being a carer is a very lonely experience. Anyone else out there?

I am ‘sort of’ new to this forum lol

2011-05-29T08:55:26Z

Hello

I post in the ‘depression’ forum but I am also a carer for my husband so I thought I would say hello in here too!

I am new here…

2010-03-25T05:13:48Z

I am a volunteer worker at a home for abused street girls here in Manila. It seems I found the site I am looking for which can help me learn to understand the young girls who have been traumatized by their experiences so that I can help them out of their depression. I intend to come here more often.
Raymond

Has anybody received support from a support group for carers ?

2010-01-22T09:35:45Z

Has anybody received support from a support group and would like to give us some feedback XxThank you Xx

Unsure what to try next.

2010-11-09T10:48:17Z

Hi, this is the first time I have posted on here. My name is Mark. my wife has suffered from depression for around 3 1/2 years. It all started 6 months after we got together so I have been through the highs and lows with her. For the last 3 1/2 years she has been on sertraline and seen many differnt Drs due to them leaving etc.

Even on the meds she has never been 100% herself and still feels the ‘dark cloud’ over her. More so now than ever before, we suffered a miscarriage about 8 weeks ago which sparked off another session of bad depression, this lasted for about 5 weeks and then she seemed to pick herself up so I thought. It seems this was a front and she was bottling things up again. It has all came to a head today and she has had a breakdown, I am really worried for her and not sure what else I can do?

Our Dr just seems to up her meds everytime but I have read and been told that she shouldnt really be on these beds still after nearly 4 years? It got to the point this morning when I almost took her through to the hospital but then stopped myself through fear that they may keep her in and you hear such horrible things about what happens when people with mental health issues go into hospital.

I am sat here now with her asleep at the end of the sofa after wearing herself out through crying and working herself up, typing this as a sense of relief.

Would love to hear from anyone else who is supporting a partner through.

Mark

New to this - could use some advice

2009-07-29T08:21:56Z

Hello there
My partner was diagnosed with depression a couple of months ago. His father had an accident earlier in the year which resulted in head injuries (he is in a neurology ward and we don’t know if he’ll go home or to residential care yet, could be months, maybe a year or 2 till we know). He was also very busy at work. In the end one of his mates and I managed to persuade him to see the doctor, they diagnosed him with depression, started him on anti-depressants and advised him to see a counsellor. We arrange our own counsellor but its been a bit irregular in terms of seeing them. After another ‘down’ we went back to the doctor who upped the meds and got an appointment with the NHS mental health people.
I am trying to be there and be supportive. He has just quit his job and is now talking about drastic action to clear debts. I’m trying to to scream and cry, but I don’t know what to do any more. I’m not sure he listens to me when i try to reassure him, I don’t think he believes me when i say its the depression speaking, i’m not sure he’s taking on board anything that the counsellor people are telling him. If i ask him to go and see them at the moment he won’t.
I don’t believe i am the only person trying to help someone deal with depression, but i’m scared i’m going to lose him and i’m scared of what the future brings. He’s the main earner, if he isn’t working then he’ll feel worse - he will feel worthless and useless.
Am I worrying too much? Does anyone have any tips or advice? I feel a bit like everything is falling apart.
Thanks

Books for Carers - Can anybody recommend any Helpful Books for Carers?

2010-01-20T09:21:45Z

I have found a few here, Can anybody recommend a book Xx

Caring for Someone with Depression - By Tony Battison

Past Caring - By Audrey Jenkinson

How you can Survive when they’re depressed, Living and coping with depression Fallout - By Anne Sheffield

50 things you can do today to beat Depression - By Paul Vincent

Living with Depression How to Cope when your partner is depressed (previously called living with the black dog) - By Caroline Carr

Living with the Black Dog - By Matthew Johnstone

Taming the Black Dog How to Beat Depression A practical Manual for suffers their relatives and colleagues - By Patrick Ellverton

I had a Black Dog - By Matthew Johnstone

SOD IT The depression virus and how to deal with it - By Martin Davies

Living with the black dog: How to cope when your partner is depressed - By Caroline Carr, Richard Craze and Roni Jay