Helen

I am having a wobble , were do I turn

Dear Paul, I saw your message last night and tried to send you a reply from my phone but it didn’t work.  I’m so sorry about that.  If you are ever feeling that low and that bad Paul, you can always call The Samaritans day and night if you want to talk.  How are you doing today?  Do you know that you are posting on the Carer’s Forum rather than the Depression Forum?  Not that it matters but most people are sufferers and therefore chat on the other forum.  I know that you were using your phone at one point to use the forum which must make it less clear which forum you are on.  More people will see and respond to your posts on the other forum.  I think it’s sunny pretty much everywhere today Paul, do you feel up to sitting or even better taking a walk outside?  The sun always helps to lift one’s mood.  I am wishing I had a magic wand for you Paul to take all your pain away.  I’m hoping a more divine force than I is watching over you and will wave it for us.  Best, Helen

Helen

Hope you are feeling well.  I have come back to try and find some support.  I don’t know where to turn and what support to ask for.

I have to say sorry to Chole because I was horrible and cruel with words.  Helen would you please tell her that I am sorry.

I hope I still have friends from this site.

Take lots of care my friend

Paul

Dear Paul,
You will always have friends here Paul.  We all have our own experiences and issues at different times in our lives that may influence how we respond to and act towards others.  It’s a shame that the person on the receiving end can’t see all that.  If they could, it could avoid misinterpretation and upset.  We’re human beings.  We make mistakes.  We have feelings.  We are all different.  One day we can feel happy, the next we can feel sad.  Think how you react to others when you’re happy.  You probably smile which invites a smile back and everyone’s happy.  When you’re sad, you probably look sad and don’t smile at others.  Other people aren’t prone to smiling at people who aren’t smiling at them for fear of seeming strange and there is no smile to get caught up in the magic of.
If a person smiles at you the day s/he is feeling happy and the next day when s/he is feeling sad s/he doesn’t smile at you, you may take it personally and feel as if you have done something wrong.  In reality, it’s totally about how the other person is feeling.
It’s the same with any sort of communication.  I feel sure that Chloe doesn’t hate you Paul.  I will apologise to her for you but I see that you have already done so.  I do know from her posts that Chloe has been going through a tough time herself at the moment and hasn’t been able to spend as much time giving to everyone as she has done so much in the past, which could be part of the reason that you feel like you do. 
I hate to hear you sounding so low Paul.  How’s your wee boy?  Are you taking him out in the sunshine?  If not, are you going out in the sunshine yourself?  You know how I rattle on about sunshine and exercise being good for lifting your mood!  What about watching a bit of comedy?  I know you don’t feel like laughing at the moment Paul but even if you laugh involuntarily, as it’s hard not to do when you are watching, reading or hearing something funny, it has the positive effect of creating endorphins to lift your mood.  There you go, lecture over!  You know I’m not lecturing you don’t you?  Just wishing I had that magic wand to hand again!
Hang on in there Paul.  Tomorrow may be better than today and the day after may be even better.  It may not be but it can’t stay this bad for ever.  We are thinking about you and if positve energy travels, I’m sending you lots.  Best wishes, Helen

Each day I got closer to happiness each day I found that there is life after depression that I can smile and laugh and love. I found sports and recreation a great healer like swimmimg, cycling, dancing and being out in the fresh air makes me happy now. Eating good wholesome food not smoking or drinking helps too. Drinking alcohol made me sad :0( especially the day after. You are inspiring hope now with your decision to ask for support and you shall find it here you are among friends some very beautiful kind decent people visit this site and social support is one of the greatest healers Xxx Being filled with positive dreams I have made a wonderful life for myself not over night ‘faith waiting in the heart of a little seed promises a miracle of life it cannot prove at once’ anon.

Lovely Advert Xx Chloe

Hello. I am newbie here. My name is brane.

hello,im new member in this forum.

Hello Arializ, how are you?  Welcome to the site.  Helen

Dear Brane, welcome to the site.  How are you.  Do come and talk to us if and when you feel like it.  Helen