I’m new here. Just joined today. Feeling really really low today (have been for a while & having really bad thoughts)
Just don’t know what to do.

Do you mind me asking what your bad thoughts are about ? Are you able to talk about them ? My daughter has bad thoughts and when I find out what she is thinking we can talk about it and look at it from a different perspective we talk them through and she realises her bad thoughts are just that bad thoughts and we fill her head with happy thoughts instead Xx

Hello you.  I am really sorry that you are feeling so low today.  You say that you have been feeling really low for a while.  Is there a reason that you are aware of for why you are feeling this way?  Is there a particular reason why today is worse?  Can I ask, how long you’ve been feeling this way?  Have you considered going to see your doctor who could help and/or refer you to someone to talk to if you would like to talk to someone?  Sorry to ask you so many questions.  Please do not feel obliged to answer.  We are here to listen if you want to talk. 
Thoughts are very powerful both positive and negative aren’t they?  The spiral for both can seem to take over very quickly.  When I was depressed I was always being told that you have to have thoughts so you may as well make them positive ones.  While I knew they were right, we all know that’s easier said than done.  However we also know that we can convince ourselves that our thoughts are reality when really we are creating them and reinforcing them and they are not really true. When I was very low my thoughts were faulty, exaggerated and very black and white.  They would always lead me to think the worst case scenario when in reality nothing ever did turn out worse case scenario.  I always found distraction helped me to stop dwelling in my negativeness.  I didn’t have much energy but would use TV, day time TV and comedy as a temporary distraction.  A walk is good if you can manage it.  Just to take your mind elsewhere for a while (the longer the better!) to break the negative pattern helps.  Thinking of you and really hope that you wake up feeling better tomorrow.  Best wishes, Helen

When I was depressed I was always being told that you have to have thoughts so you may as well make them positive ones.  While I knew they were right, we all know that’s easier said than done.  However we also know that we can convince ourselves that our thoughts are reality when really we are creating them and reinforcing them and they are not really true. When I was very low my thoughts were faulty, exaggerated and very black and white.  They would always lead me to think the worst case scenario when in reality nothing ever did turn out worse case scenario.  I always found distraction helped me to stop dwelling in my negativeness.

That is such a wonderful wonderful description of how destructive thoughts are Xx Such as FEAR - False Experience Acting Reality Xx Very cleverly put and I love the idea of distracting the negative thoughts Xx Idol hands make work for the devil..well they certainly do in my head ..Chloe

The spiral for both can seem to take over very quickly.  When I was depressed I was always being told that you have to have thoughts so you may as well make them positive ones.  While I knew they were right, we all know that’s easier said than done.  However we also know that we can convince ourselves that our thoughts are reality when really we are creating them and reinforcing them and they are not really true.