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If your teenage son or daughter seems stroppy or rude, don’t blame yourself. You haven’t gone wrong. Teenagers push the boundaries as part of growing up. Be flexible and change some family rules to give them a certain amount of freedom, but stick to the rules which you feel are non negotiable, like not being rude. If they are rude, don’t lose your temper but say, calmly, that you don’t like the way they’re speaking.

Parents’ confidence can hit an all time low when their teenagers are like this, so try and build it up by doing things for yourself and making your own life. That will make you feel less of a failure.
Teen counsellor Barry Brightman

More help and advice

http://www.goodtoknow.co.uk/family/146175/Dealing-with-stroppy-teenagers

Hope I helped XxChloe

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Parenting power: bringing up teenagersParenting a teen can be a minefield. In this extract from John Sharry’s Parent Power, he explains how it’s all about compromise, compromise and more compromise

He’s become so secretive and moody and just wants to be with his friends all the time

She’s become so argumentative and abusive. Anytime we ask her to do anything she starts World War Three in the house

Sound familiar? Becoming a parent of a teenager can be a troubled and stormy time. The young open child who chatted happily to you can suddenly become this argumentative and resentful teenager who challenges everything you say. Teenagers can become secretive and suspicious and you can feel redundant and locked out of their lives. In addition, you can be full of fears for your teenager. There are so many pressures on teenagers to be involved in drugs and alcohol or to become sexually active at too young an age. With their increasing independence, you can also fear for their safety, worrying that they might be attacked or placed in very unsafe situations. You struggle with setting boundaries and limits with a teenager who can resent your authority as a parent. Parents are usually in their forties or fifties at the time and may be going through their own midlife crisis. At this stage of life parents are often wondering about the direction of their own lives and careers, sometimes feeling that life has passed them by. Having teenagers who seem to have endless opportunities and who appear ungrateful can stir up a lot of emotion in parents, even causing them to feel envious. Alternatively, parents may be looking forward to a quieter period in their life, only for this to be rudely disturbed by the arrival of a noisy and demanding teenager. In this context it is understandable for parents to react negatively to this stormy period, to lose sight of the bigger picture and miss out on the enjoyable aspects of parenting a teenager.

It’s difficult for teenagers too

The transition from child to adult is difficult for teenagers also. So many changes occur in these short years that it is not surprising that they feel at times confused, frightened and lacking in confidence. Physically, their bodies grow and change in ways that might make them feel awkward and self-conscious. Emotionally, they can be subject to great mood swings as they discover the range of human emotions. From intense feelings of love and infatuation to anger and hatred, teenage emotional life can be like a roller coaster. Physically, teenagers become fully developed and can experience intense sexual feelings that can be alarming to them, especially if they have no one to talk to about what is going on. Intellectually, teenagers also make great gains, being able to analyse things and to develop their own opinions and views. They can begin to see the inadequacies in the parental world (and often are very eloquent in pointing this out) and wonder about their role and meaning in life. Teenagers are under pressures, some of which are greater than in previous years, and need the support of their parents more than ever.

Read more: Parenting Power: bringing up teenagers: iVillage http://www.ivillage.co.uk/parenting/teens/teenbeh/articles/0,,186629_574141,00.html##ixzz15FC1d1lL
Parenting: Information & advice

sorry there is sooooooooo much to read Xx hope I haven’t bored you XChloe

James Taylor You got a friend
When your down and troubled
And you need a helping hand
And nothing, whoa nothing is going right.
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest nights.
You just call out my name,
And you know whereever I am
I’ll come running, oh yeah baby
To see you again.
Winter, spring , summer, or fall,
All you have to do is call
And I’ll be there, yeah, yeah, yeah.
You’ve got a freind.
If the sky above you
Should turn dark and full of clouds
And that old north wind should begin to blow
Keep your head together and call my name out loud
And soon I will be knocking upon your door.
You just call out my name and you know where ever I am
I’ll come running to see you again.
Winter, Spring, summer or fall
All you got to do is call
And I’ll be there, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Hey, ain’t it good to know that you’ve got a friend?
People can be so cold.
They’ll hurt you and desert you.
Well they’ll take your soul if you let them.
Oh yeah, but don’t you let them.
You just call out my name and you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to see you again.
Oh babe, don’t you know that,
Winter Spring summer or fall,
Hey now, all you’ve got to do is call.
Lord, I’ll be there, yes I will.
You’ve got a friend.
You’ve got a friend.
Ain’t it good to know you’ve got a friend.
Ain’t it good to know you’ve got a friend.
You’ve got a friend.

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