Time to grieve
Whether amicable or bitter, the end of a marriage is a loss and can leave you with an array of emotions. It’s important to take time to grieve – whether tears or anger, release your feelings and allow yourself to heal.

Forget about failure
It is completely natural to feel guilty in the wake of a divorce – many look back at past mistakes and find it hard to forgive themselves for a failed marriage. Try to put the word ‘failure’ out of your mind – what’s done is done and reliving the bad times will only destroy your self-esteem.

Support circle
From family to friends, most will have a support network already in place – use it. They will be only too happy to help and can provide valuable emotional support, help with planning your next move and inspire you to get on with life.

Make a plan
It’s important to take time to plan the future. Organise your finances and you’ll be better placed to think about housing, work and childcare - the more organised you are, the more confident you’ll start to feel

Set an example
All too often, the big worry when it comes to divorce is the children. If it’s at all possible, both parties should try to set an example by avoiding sniping, back-stabbing and arguing. Seeing the children handling things well might just help you to do the same.

Look forward
Even during the happy times, your marriage was all about compromise. But once the worst is over, you can look forward to doing things your way again – from decorating your home to embarking on a new course or career – and doing this will mark the beginning of a renewed positivity.

Time out
As difficult as it may be, try to take a little time out for yourself. Even if it’s a walk in the park, reading a few chapters of a good book or a long hot soak in the bath, those little moments of solitude and peace can give rise to the next step…

Rediscover your passions
When you got married, your passion was probably your partner… and then it was the children. But before you became one half of a couple, you had passions all your own. Rediscovering an old hobby or taking up a new one can help you feel in control of your own life once again.

Expand your social circle
There’s no need to lose touch with mutual friends when the break-up is all finalised. But expanding your circle of friends can help you to move on and give you some welcome relief from those inevitable “how are you coping?” questions.

Get back in the dating game
While there is no need to rush back onto the dating scene, a little gentle romance can do wonders for your self-esteem. Your new partner may even be among your new social circle or a fellow hobby-lover. Just make sure you take it slow and do things at a pace you feel comfortable with.

Feel empowered
Once you’ve weathered the storm and come out the other side, the road to recovery can be an empowering experience – a new town, a new career… even a promise to get fit and feel fabulous – the ability to make ALL your own decisions can be wonderfully empowering.

Find yourself again
You may have ceased to be one half of a couple but you’re still 100 per cent you. It’s just a question of finding the bits that got lost along the way.

K T Oslin _ Live close by visit Often

I love ya baby
I like your company
You make me laugh
You never make me cry
I think you’re sexy
I like to kiss ya
Even my dog thinks you’re quite a guy

I’m not lookin for a husband
Found out the hard way it doesn’t work for me
I need a friend
I want a lover
I have to be alone occasionally

(Chorus)
So live Close by, visit often
That’ll work, that’ll work for me
Live close by, visit often
Save us both a lot of misery

You fix me breakfast
I’ll buy you dinner
We’ll hit a movie on Wednesday night
You go to your place
I’ll go to my place
Sounds like our plan is gonna work just right

(Chorus)
Live close by, visit often
That’ll work, that’ll work for me
Live close by, visit often
Save us both a lot of misery

It could be rough
It could be easy
It might be hell
Might be heavenly
How do you feel?
How does it strike ya?
Could you be happy with a woman like me?
Why don’t ya? Why don’t ya?

(Chorus)
Live close by, visit often
That’ll work, that’ll work for me
Live close by, visit often
Save us both a lot of misery

Live close by, visit often…

Joy Division - Love Will Tear Us Apart Lyrics

When routine bites hard
And ambitions are low
And resentment rides high
But emotions won’t grow
And we’re changing our ways, taking different roads
Then love, love will tears us apart again
Love, love will tears us apart again
Why is the bedroom so cold
You’ve turned away on your side
Is my timing that flawed?
Our respect run so dry
Yet there’s still this appeal that we’ve kept through our lives
But love, love will tears us apart again
Love, love will tear us apart again
You cry out in your sleep
All my failings exposed
And there’s a taste in my mouth
As desperation takes hold
Just that something so good just can’t function no more
But love, love will tear us apart again
Love, love will tear us apart again (3)

By T.. D. Jakes

There are people who can walk away from you.

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead.. You’ve got to know when it’s dead.

You’ve got to know when it’s over. Let me tell you something.. I’ve got the gift of good-bye. It’s the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye.. It’s not that I’m hateful, it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever it means for me to have it’ll be given to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn’t belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to…...

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains .......

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can’t treat you right, love you back, and see your worth…...

LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you.

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge…..

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction… ..

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents

LET IT GO!!!

If you! u have a bad attitude…. ...

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better…...

LET IT GO!!!

If you’re stuck in the past and life is trying to take you to a new level .........

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship. ....

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won’t even try to help themselves.. ....

LET IT GO!!!

If you’re feeling depressed and stressed ............

LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself and life is saying ‘take your hands off of it,’ then you need to…...

LET IT GO!!!

The above A beautiful christian friend sent me to me and I took the word God out of it and changed it for YOU Xx I hope it helps Xx

‘The Battle is not yours its just what is !’ Byron Katie

During the next 60 seconds, Stop whatever you are doing, and take this opportunity…

(Literally it is only ONE minute!) say to yourself Xx I AM ENOUGH !!! marissa peer

This website has taught me -

You simply say I am enough (Peer)feel blessed and live in the moment (Toille)ummmm and know life is about to get lovelier thoughts (Advice from a friend..Boden Catalogue) become things make them happy ones thats what mike dooley would preach it does help me xx

Next, stop and think and appreciate YOUR power in your life, you have a choice ? (friends advice)

I can change my life feel better ...Xx

‘Yes, I love myself I am enough.

I can Keep me going day and night.

I am strong enough if the person next to me can do it, so can I.

The big issuer sellers those in rehab the kid with the first day at school the person having chemo the homeless the poor Xx

I CAN DO IT Xx

STAY STRONG XXX

yes I guess then it’s time to MOVE !!!!!!! on .....