It has snapped back to day - I foolishly went back to bed - it’s hell trying to get myself up when I have given in - feel totally deflated, de-moralised, inadequate and weak (that’s to start with).

I’m going to shower now and force myself outside - don’t want to but I know I must.

Well at least you know in your head should get out of bed, whether you feel like it or not, this is the first step, at least the thought is there, so you’re half way there already thinking it.

Whether you do it or not is irrelevant, the thought is there, build up to doing it. maybe taking the covers off one day, another day just sitting on the bed when you wake up, rather than lying down in bed, then work up to getting up and staying in the bedroom, (unless you feel like moving around the hwole house by then).

There is no time frame you have to do this by, you need to do it when you’re ready and feel like it, or if you rush to do it for other peoples sakes, it may knock you back, or you may resent them.

chris

i cant get out of bed most of the time.  I have to force myself and insturct myself on how to do it.  I have to ssay open your eyes,  roll over on your side, push yourself up on your elbow, move covers off, push yourself up, hang legs over side,  slide off…........i know it isnt helping me but sometimes its all i can manage…..i do it because i cannot control my thoughts when im lying there.  I “see” little scenarios, hear little conversations , they dont relate to me.  they dont involve me they arent anyone i know ........i dont know where they come from because im not conciously thinking them…theyre just there.

Dear Sally, I do hope that you are feeling a bit better when you read this.  Bed often seems like the safest place to be and the only place you want to be when you feel so low but as you say, it just allows more time to be spent ruminating and worrying about all the things in your life that seem so terrible and that you are so worried about.  If you could just sleep and not think maybe it wouldn’t be such a bad thing to escape but as you know, that is rarely the case.
Is there anything that you could look forward to waking up and getting out of bed for?  As trivial as it may sound, when I was very low and not working I used to try to look forward to getting up to watch This Morning on the TV.  I had it timed down to getting out of bed at 28 minutes past 10 and be downstairs by 10.30.  Like I said, it may seem trivial but it got me out of bed and was a complete distraction from my life and my worries for a couple of hours.  Anything that acts as a distraction helps and if you enjoy it, all the better.  Thinking of you.  Helen

I am the same when I used to lie in bed I think too much. I need distractions. Sadly I used shopping in the past. Now I go for country walks and listen to the birds. They are free and gosh they sound so cute singing their little hearts out to eachother. I also hug trees have you tried it. I love hugging trees. Oh it’s like a big strong man a loving mother a best friend it’s solid and there and not going anywhere. I do look around quickly to see nobody is watching me first. This sort of lovely feeling comes up through my tummy. I have a dog too. I had to get out of bed to let the dog have a wee. I found looking after the little dog helped me and I then looked after myself. I had to walk the dog so I got out. I used to think people were staring at me when i went for a walk on my own. I found I was focusing so much on the dog the distraction completely vanished plus the insecure feelings i had.Plus I didn’t feel alone. The dog loved me unconditionally too.I Told the dog everything and she never repeated it to anybody else. Plus she was always there. I did let her on my bed and then i didn’t feel alone. I also felt loving and stroking the dog made me feel better. Stay strong Xx may i offer you a hug Xxx My boss at work said when his girlfriend dumped him he watched movies, so I watch movies when I am troubled the better the plot the better it shut up the chatter box. I also listen to inspirational Cd’s to shout up the chatter box. Tony Robbins Wayne Dyer Byron Katie challenged the negative thoughts and shut them up. Marissa peer suggests we sing a really positive song, I sing Don’t give up by Kate Bush, and Perfect by who don’t who. You are going to get better, you are going to get through this you are going to be able to realise one day what a strong beautiful survivor you are Xx because you are Xx YOU ARE STRONG Xx and you are going to get over this. Now I lie in only to listen to the dawn chorus and then it’ll dawns on me it’s all over, the madness the depression, yet I sort of miss it some days. I actually feel a little sense of loss of the old depressed me bit odd really Xx Never quite understood that feeling !!