Hello Rainbow, welcome to the site. Looking after your brother sounds hard. I know from my husband that being a carer can be unrewarding as the person you are caring for often isn’t well enough to appreciate and thank you for what you do day in day out. You say that you are a carer along with your parents one of your brothers, so do you get some support from other siblings and time out to look after yourself? I do hope you can make time for doing things that you enjoy. When we are in a good frame of mind and nurtured ourselves, I feel sure that we can care for others better and give more. Some carers I know feel they are isolated and don’t have or dare have any time for themselves which can leave them drained and feeling in need of help themselves. Have you and your parents considered going to a carers group? I have been to several and know many people who go and feel that they get a lot out of them. They are often weekly in most towns and cities. You can find details in libraries and doctor’s surgeries. There is a list of support groups on the site too under the carers tab.
Do take care of yourself and be in touch if and when you can and want to be. Sending you best wishes and thinking of you, Helen
Hi yeah my parents care for 2 brothers and i care for one ,i also have another brother but he is fine ... 3 of my brothers ahve mental problems ,people dont seem to understand why they cant work but once i tried to get a job and 2 of them nearly passed out with the stress of it ,can never forgive myself for that ...we do everything ourselves for them ,i am struggling atm a bit tho cause i had some bad troubles of my own but i kinda forget about me and just concentrate on them which is difficult sometimes , ive lost many friends and got many bullys , but the main thing is my brothers are ok ..i dont really ever think about me ive been caring since i left school which is a while now ,somethings i cant talk about to my parents and i feel very selfish for that ,im not really worth peoples efforts so all my time and effort go into my brothers
Hi Rainbow, I’m Will. You are worth every effort mate. It sounds like a very neccessary, valuable and worthwhile job that you do looking after your brothers but you are important as a person too. I’m sure and hope that your brothers appreciate it.
There are some cruel people out there but there are some good ones too. Would you like a friend/s? Do you think you’re afraid of trying to make friends? I know that there is psycotherapy that helps people build and feel more comfortable building and forming relationships. You can get a referral from your GP. You may also want to talk to someone in general about your situation. Your GP could get you a referral to do that too.
The site is always here too. I’ve had some great support from people here on the site when I was at my wits end with my separation and losing my job. I find just writing it down helped a lot but other people are really supportive with kind words.
Keep your chin up mate and take care. Will