Hi All

I would like your views on my new career change.  In brief I have been a beauty therapist/comany Director and have had 6 successful businesses. Diagnosed with clinicaal depression in Sept 08 and noe in recovery. (please read my story “Caught in a trap”) 
Because of the nature of my business and I like to organise (been married 3 times and organised all 3 weddings) Plus I have been listening to clients problems for as long as I can remember, it has made me want to help other people who are going thru the greiving process.
I am very ambitious, passionate in everything I do as well as organised and have excellent client service as weel as business acumen.

I sent my CV and made some enquiries to the co-operative and the put my name forward for their management designate programme.  2 months down the line I have been told I have got thru the first stages of their interview process, next I had to submit an application of which I am about to hear in the next few days.

The thing is although I have a supportive husband but he is really worried that now I will become depressed again due to the nature of the business - I feel it is something I really need to do - Funeral arranger/organiser has anyone got any thoughts on this please i would be immensley grateful
Am I turning to this business because of the nature of the work and the fact I have been depressed?
Please help someone
I have searched sites and read about the nature of the business and scanned the net am I being too hasty of getting back to work or will I be good at this job?

My business cards would read Drop Dead Gorgeous - Dead or alive I can make you up! Lol
thanks Jo

Hello Jo, Helen here.  You sound like an amazing woman with amazing compassion and strong beliefs.  A great combination in any profession I should imagine.  I can picture my husband saying the same things to you as your husband is saying to you.  He is just worried about you and after seeing you go through such pain and now doing so well, he must fear you jeapordizing that in your passion to help others. 

Do you think that you would end up taking your work home with you and feeling drained from such a job so strongly dominated by grief or would you be able to feel that you do as much as you can when you are at work and be able to leave it there?  You will be dealing with grief in the extreme every day, day in day out.  You sound like a wonderful person to want to help people who are suffering but do you think that surrounding yourself with such pain is right for you right now?  If you do, then I am sure that you will do an amazing job and help lots of people.  Just don’t give too much and have nothing left for yourself and your family.  I think that grief is rather like depression in that you can give it your all and it still won’t be enough, so do be careful that you don’t let it take more than you can give.  I do hope that this doesn’t sound like a lecture as it really isn’t meant to be.  I just know that my tendency to want to give and help can often leave me drained and unable to give to the people I really should be giving to, if that makes sense.  Thinking of you and wishing you all the best in your decision.  I hope you get some other responses to give you different viewpoints and things to think about.  Helen

Hi Helen Thankyou for your comments of which I have noted.  It is very difficult sometimes to know wether I can cope with a small thing, let alone a new career.  You have made my year saying I am an amazing woman, I feel at the moment i am a total failure.  I am on capasity benefits at the moment and I asked My husband to put some money in my account to cover some bills.  He did, however he then texted me while he was out with his brother at the nec of all places to say he couldnt keep doing it and I should go bankrupt.  I couldnt believe it!  Since we have been together he likes to seperate our money he has his own account , I have mine. I do not get any money whilst I am off sick as business is so bad as I havn’t been there. Different when I was bringing money home though, I think we should be a unit together and deal with out debts/business as one.  He has just walked in and I feel like hanging mysel!

Oh and to top it all, he is quick enough to tell a stranger they can buy our business for 6K less than what we are selling it for knowing that she is desperate to buy it and we have already reduced the price and we will still walk away with some debts and then he has the cheek to moan about putting £300 in my account?

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