Some of the posts on this forum are so impressive! There are so many good, patient people out there. My specific problem is that I really resent the fact that my partner of 19 years monopolises most of the time we’re together with depression. I’m used to it, I have a number of strategies for trying to get my partner through hard times, but most of them don’t work, or at least not very often. There are good objective reasons for this depression, but it seems to me that overcoming those reasons would require my partner to look inside their own head, something they will not do. I no longer feel that I have an easy answer to the question “Do you love your partner?” I begrudge all the evenings spent trying to lift the clouds and being told that it’s all my fault anyway.
Does anyone else feel those things? Would it be more help if I tried to be more of a better person and just tried harder? One friend says I should be more demanding of my partner. Would that help either of us?