Hello James and Hmmm,
Good advice James.
Often the things that are best for low mood are the things that we least feel like doing when we’re feeling low.  It seems unfair doesn’t it but it’s true.  The last thing that springs to mind when you are low, is chatting to people, doing exercise or getting out in the fresh air or eating healthily or laughing.  Yet all these things are tried and tested and definite mood boosters.  When you are low it often seems much more appealing to stay in bed and sleep or eat comfort food or be on your own.  These things are tried and tested too and come low down on the list of mood boosters.  I’m sure we’ve all tried them.  At the time you might feel better for doing or eating or not doing them, but at best the effect is very short lived and then you often feel worse.
It’s good advice of James to try to talk to people.  Sometimes the response is very rewarding.  Sometimes it’s not as rewarding.  But don’t give up if one person doesn’t give back what you are expecting and don’t take it personally.  Low mood can make us very sensitive and even being handed our skinny cappuccino by a grumpy member of staff can upset us.  It isn’t you that they are grumpy at, they’re probably just having a bad day. 
Hmmm, you are using the word ‘should’ a lot.  You are telling yourself that you’ve got a lot going for you and that you are doing the things that should be making you happy and you think that you should be happy.  We get so wrapped up in what we should do these days that we forget to have fun along the way.
It really helps if you can see the funny side of things even if they seem far from funny at the time.  If you look hard enough you can see the funny side of things.  Goodness knows if we hadn’t been granted the gift of laughter how humans would cope.  The gift of laughter is so important.  I lost it for a long time and now that I have it back, I realise how much I missed it.  I also try not to take myself too seriously.  I always laugh at myself too (my philosophy now is to try and beat the crowd to it!  Why should they get all the fun?).  And try to do more of the things that make you happy and that you enjoy or used to enjoy doing.  If you can’t remember or don’t know what they are, try writing down when you enjoy something and do it more often and write down the 3 things at the end of each day that you have enjoyed most and do them more often.  Don’t discount the importance of the how happy little things can make you.  Why just limit your happiness to big events or things in life to make you happy.  They don’t happen very often (unless you’re very lucky!) so make the small ones count.  Cumulatively they are even more powerful.  .  Be kind to yourself and the rewards will be great.  Stop beating yourself up for not being happy or feeling empty when you think you should be happy and take a step back and work on finding things that do and will make you happy.  Good luck hmmm and hope to hear from you soon.  P.S.  I don’t mean to lecture but I can relate to what you say and it’s often surprising what can make a difference. Best wishes, Helen

I remember when I learnt to scuba dive there was something inside me that just came alive a va va voom and a cha cha cha and I felt great. My husband loves green laning on his dirt bike and went up in a microlight months ago and now would like to learn to fly one himself. He used to paraglide and gave it up when I had my daughter. Can you find your va va voom ? My daughter gets her va va voom when she goes pony riding. My friends husband builds the most amazing train sets and another friend sews so it’s not about being active that makes them feel great. I find when I can get my teeth into a really great hobbie or interest I come alive Xx I have met lots of wonderful people going on courses and night school and joining clubs. I was a member of the marine conservation society years ago and that was excellent fun. One of my friends met her husband learning Japanese at night school. I met my husband through a friend at the open university. Loneliness is horrid and I use to hate it. You’ll never be alone for long, there is always new friends to be made, you have made some now. I hope you guys find your va va voom and stop the doom and gloom feeling inside of you. I find when I find my passion I find my me inside the me and that makes me happy. Keeping the me inside the me happy is when I am selfish and give myself me time with my favourite hobby or people that make me me and what really makes me happy Xx When I was off work the tapes my work had sent me to cure stress mentioned that the author and his wife had special me time. The author had an amazing garden and he made time for this on his own to have his own space away from his wife. When my husband goes out on his motorbike on a sunday he gets his va va voom backI can see it in his eyes and he laughs about his troubles.When I have listened to my favourite Cds and done some sewing I get my va va voom back, I love sewing Xx hope this helps Xxx Have you got a hobby ?

You deserve all the love, in the world.

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